It's like being a virgin all over again.
January 9th 2007 19:44
The best thing about being coupled is the sex. I don't care what anyone says, sex with a partner that knows all your spots and weaknesses is the only way to go. Not that I have a lot of experience in the one night stand department. Ok, I have NO experience in that department. But, all I know is I went to bed last night with a smile on my face. Did you?
One of the side affects with my anti depressants is that I am unable to have an orgasm as easily as before. Although this of course, sucked a fat one at first, it has actually been beneficial to Tony and I in the ole lovemaking department. We had to go back to basics. Start again from scratch, like we were having sex for the first time. Luckily though, there was no fumbling and a lot less "oops I'm sorry,wrong hole?" instances.
Somewhere along the way, I forgot that sex isn't about the orgasm, which is what we both were so focused on. We would do all thse funky positions to get that "perfect" orgasm for me. When I stopped having them, sex switched to focus on Tony more, something I am ashamed to admit, I had stopped doing. He was basically just a bit actor in MY play. Foreplay for Tony was nil. I figured trying to get me off was enough. Then I wondered why he wasn't as interested or turned on as before.
We started having more quickies. I started giving it up in the morning, since he loves morning sex so much. Our couplings started to be more freqnent, more intense, more satisfying for both of us, even though I wasn't geting physical satisfaction, I was getting emotional satisfaction, something I never realized I missed until all of this happened. Seeing the joy in my husbands face when he had his orgasm was completely satisfying in a completely, but much better way. I was used to seeing his face, strained with concentration, brow wrinkled, sweat dripping, lips muttering the multiplication tables to keep up with my quest for the perfect orgasm. When he would finally release (more specificaly when I allowed him to) he was anti climatic at best. He would be so tired, he'd come, and lay there panting, and not in that good way. This was if I SAW his face, a lot of times, we weren't even face to face when the time came.
Now though, with this approach we've taken, which would be sex is FUN, I've found my orgasms. Once again, my meds have made my life so much better. We've gone back to that wonderful place pre kids, where we have sex as much as we can, as intense as we can. Tony and I used to say we never got making love. It was all fucking to us. We made love the other night. Really and truly and it was amazing. It wasn't corny it wasn't silly. It was nice, and that, that ladies and gentleman is when my orgasms came back.
I will try not to ever get caught up in the chore of it all. Sex is an amazing gift given to us humans. We enjoy it, and we can have it whenever we want. I want everyone to go out and get some tonight!!
One of the side affects with my anti depressants is that I am unable to have an orgasm as easily as before. Although this of course, sucked a fat one at first, it has actually been beneficial to Tony and I in the ole lovemaking department. We had to go back to basics. Start again from scratch, like we were having sex for the first time. Luckily though, there was no fumbling and a lot less "oops I'm sorry,wrong hole?" instances.
Somewhere along the way, I forgot that sex isn't about the orgasm, which is what we both were so focused on. We would do all thse funky positions to get that "perfect" orgasm for me. When I stopped having them, sex switched to focus on Tony more, something I am ashamed to admit, I had stopped doing. He was basically just a bit actor in MY play. Foreplay for Tony was nil. I figured trying to get me off was enough. Then I wondered why he wasn't as interested or turned on as before.
We started having more quickies. I started giving it up in the morning, since he loves morning sex so much. Our couplings started to be more freqnent, more intense, more satisfying for both of us, even though I wasn't geting physical satisfaction, I was getting emotional satisfaction, something I never realized I missed until all of this happened. Seeing the joy in my husbands face when he had his orgasm was completely satisfying in a completely, but much better way. I was used to seeing his face, strained with concentration, brow wrinkled, sweat dripping, lips muttering the multiplication tables to keep up with my quest for the perfect orgasm. When he would finally release (more specificaly when I allowed him to) he was anti climatic at best. He would be so tired, he'd come, and lay there panting, and not in that good way. This was if I SAW his face, a lot of times, we weren't even face to face when the time came.
Now though, with this approach we've taken, which would be sex is FUN, I've found my orgasms. Once again, my meds have made my life so much better. We've gone back to that wonderful place pre kids, where we have sex as much as we can, as intense as we can. Tony and I used to say we never got making love. It was all fucking to us. We made love the other night. Really and truly and it was amazing. It wasn't corny it wasn't silly. It was nice, and that, that ladies and gentleman is when my orgasms came back.
I will try not to ever get caught up in the chore of it all. Sex is an amazing gift given to us humans. We enjoy it, and we can have it whenever we want. I want everyone to go out and get some tonight!!
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I love this post!!
Wonderful, beautiful...love your honesty...it's naked....and darlin'...I'd like to go out and get some tonight...hell...this morning...NOW...but my man is away.
That doesn't mean I won't be smiling.
I am quite capable of 'smiling' alone...I'd rather 'smile' with him but 'smiling' alone has it's benefits...
Needless to say, come weekends (that pun is truly not intended but it stays)...
A beautiful post Sandi. Brilliant.
...and I am really happy for you.
Smiling for you Woman.
That's smiling not 'smiling'.
DuskDevi
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A very interesting post, all dirty jokes aside. I'm going to read through your archives, if you don't mind.