Bad mommy.
April 13th 2007 17:00
I've been feeling the strain lately of being a mom. This is always something I am hesitant to speak about because I've had people tell me before that as single moms, they are offended that I "whine" about not having a "break" from the kids. Although, yes we are lucky to have what we have, and we should be thankful for our lots in life, I often wonder how would these single moms feel if someone told them to stop whining about life and be glad they have a job, or a car, or whatever. A lot of times these single moms make WAY more than we do as a two parent family. But, would I dare come to them and say "It really hurts me when you talk about how much money you make, and how you can afford to like put your kids in classes, and take them out all the time" No of course not. We all make choices, some good, some bad, and we all have to deal.
Anyway, sorry personal rant there.
Tony has been working a LOT. A LOT. Like before, I didn't think he could work anymore than he was, but man has this new guy proved me wrong. It used to be, the beginning of the month was the easier part of the month. The pressure was off, it wasn't untl the last two weeks of the month that things kicked into overdrive. This new guy though, whoa. Let's just say if Tony comes home at 8 pm... we're excited that he is home "early". If he actually GETS a Saturday off... it's cause for a celebration. A lot of the time, he sees the kids before work, and that;s about it. Add classes he's taking, and wow. Not much time for much else but sleeping.
This has been wearing on me. The kids constantly whine about wanting to see him. They don't want to go to bed because they want to see him. So, bedtime has gotten pushed back later and even later still. Cutting into my precious ME time. By the time the kids get settled in bed, and actually asleep and not calling "Mommy mommy mommy" every five minutes, that's when Tony walks through the door. By this time I'm so tired, I just grunt a hello, and we both go to our respective corners, lick our wounds from the day, and go to bed... as far away from each other as we can.
I have been toying wth the idea of letting my SIL take the kids, BOTH kids this weekend. Tony has to work tomorrow, and i would have a blissful day IN MY HOUSE alone. I can go to the gym without having to worry about scheduling daycare for them. I could walk around the mall, or I could just play sims and clean house all day. The possibilities are endless. Yet, I get that tang of mommy guilt. As mommy, I should be able to handle my children. Wanting to dump them off at the inlaws house should be teh furthest thing from my mind. I should want to you know play with them, and color and do fun crafty projects, not want to stick pencils in my ears so I don't have to hear them whining at me.
Anyway, sorry personal rant there.
Tony has been working a LOT. A LOT. Like before, I didn't think he could work anymore than he was, but man has this new guy proved me wrong. It used to be, the beginning of the month was the easier part of the month. The pressure was off, it wasn't untl the last two weeks of the month that things kicked into overdrive. This new guy though, whoa. Let's just say if Tony comes home at 8 pm... we're excited that he is home "early". If he actually GETS a Saturday off... it's cause for a celebration. A lot of the time, he sees the kids before work, and that;s about it. Add classes he's taking, and wow. Not much time for much else but sleeping.
This has been wearing on me. The kids constantly whine about wanting to see him. They don't want to go to bed because they want to see him. So, bedtime has gotten pushed back later and even later still. Cutting into my precious ME time. By the time the kids get settled in bed, and actually asleep and not calling "Mommy mommy mommy" every five minutes, that's when Tony walks through the door. By this time I'm so tired, I just grunt a hello, and we both go to our respective corners, lick our wounds from the day, and go to bed... as far away from each other as we can.
I have been toying wth the idea of letting my SIL take the kids, BOTH kids this weekend. Tony has to work tomorrow, and i would have a blissful day IN MY HOUSE alone. I can go to the gym without having to worry about scheduling daycare for them. I could walk around the mall, or I could just play sims and clean house all day. The possibilities are endless. Yet, I get that tang of mommy guilt. As mommy, I should be able to handle my children. Wanting to dump them off at the inlaws house should be teh furthest thing from my mind. I should want to you know play with them, and color and do fun crafty projects, not want to stick pencils in my ears so I don't have to hear them whining at me.
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Bitching occasionally is not whining. Everyone bitches occasionally. I'll bet even Mother Theresa bitched occasionally.
t's interesting to see the other side of the coin. As someone who decided long ago never to have kids, I'm constantly bombardedwith reasons why I should from every woman I know who has kids--funny thing is, I never ask. And none of them ever recount the flip side. : O
I don't think there's anything bad or wrong about needing a break from the kids..or the job, the house, the spouse, whatever. Have the in-laws take them for the day, and don't feel guilty about it. Hang up your cape for a day, Supermom!
Comment by Wendi
I can relate. I can't offer help or adivce... but I can certainly relate. In my book? You're justified.
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Take care,
Nick
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I don't want to hear one more whine from you oh whiney one... do it!!!
-T.C.
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When they came back today I realized how much I missed them, and we had a good time.
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