The secret to not offending people is to just die.
May 9th 2007 02:59
Good Lord almighty. Today has been a day.
I went on a weekend trip this past weekend with some girls I know from the Internets. The six of us have talked daily for about a year. I'm instant messaging one or another or all of them all day long. We have a good time. We have some of the same interests, yet different enough to keep things interesting. We have fun, we're all friends and we decided to meet up.
We all belong to a board that was started for kids Jonny's age. All six of us had boys around the same time and that';s how we met. We've been together (the whole board) for a long time, but the six of us just clicked. Little did I know that it was against the board rules (by the reaction we got today) to not tell everyone every aspect of our lives. That where my money goes, and where my time is spent is up to the majority of the board.
We went to Chicago. Ate a lot of greasy food, did a chocolate buffet, was berated by our waiter at Ed Debevics, ate delcious popcorn, and in general just hung out for a weekend. One girl is a photographer and posted pics on our board that we all belong to. Next thing we know we're being berated for being so hush hush about it. For not inviting sixty people to join us. Some of them were such fucking hoors about it, I commented that if they wanted to know why they weren't invited... just read the fucking thread. They even started a POLL as to who knew we were friends. It got ugly. The bad thing? It was all done anonymously on our Dirty Laundry board.
It is amazing to me how offended people got. I mean words like "hurt" and "left out" were thrown willy nilly. When I defended our position (it was our money, our vacation how we wanted to spend it was our busniess) I was told I had an attitude and was a total bitch basically. I mean we knew there would be some eyerolling across the land, but the way we were assaulted boggles our minds. We all kind of down about it, and if we had known, we would have kept our traps shut.
I just dont get being so invested in someone elses lives. I like my board, it's good for a laugh or info or what have you, but I can honestly say that the majority of those women are not my FRIENDS, sure a few more than the six I know are my friends, but not to the extent I guess these women thought.
It turned into something all together disturbing. We got a lot of support but the fact that someone even started it, and that others agreed has left me feeling pissed. I didn't know everything I did had to go through them.
Then later today I did a round table discussion on groceries stores. It was about one store in particular and its a store Im ok with, but I dont LOVE it or anything. Women were getting MAD about the bad stuff some of us were saying. Eye rolling, and snapping at each other, as if they actually OWNED the chain we were speaking of. One lady was down right unpleasant about it, saying "Well if you want to waste your money be my guest"
What is it about people that make them so invested in something that they feel offense to what strangers have to say? From my board to that round table discussion, I've been dealing with it all day. I just don'tget it. Six people meet up, and it causes chaos on our board, I don't think Shop N SAve has good meat, so I get the stank eye.
Women are crazy. That's the only thing I can think of. Maybe I am the very same way and can'tsee it. From my point of view though, it makes absolutely no sense to me. Why anyone would even CARE about our trip, or whether or not I prefer Dierbergs just baffles me.
I went on a weekend trip this past weekend with some girls I know from the Internets. The six of us have talked daily for about a year. I'm instant messaging one or another or all of them all day long. We have a good time. We have some of the same interests, yet different enough to keep things interesting. We have fun, we're all friends and we decided to meet up.
We all belong to a board that was started for kids Jonny's age. All six of us had boys around the same time and that';s how we met. We've been together (the whole board) for a long time, but the six of us just clicked. Little did I know that it was against the board rules (by the reaction we got today) to not tell everyone every aspect of our lives. That where my money goes, and where my time is spent is up to the majority of the board.
We went to Chicago. Ate a lot of greasy food, did a chocolate buffet, was berated by our waiter at Ed Debevics, ate delcious popcorn, and in general just hung out for a weekend. One girl is a photographer and posted pics on our board that we all belong to. Next thing we know we're being berated for being so hush hush about it. For not inviting sixty people to join us. Some of them were such fucking hoors about it, I commented that if they wanted to know why they weren't invited... just read the fucking thread. They even started a POLL as to who knew we were friends. It got ugly. The bad thing? It was all done anonymously on our Dirty Laundry board.
It is amazing to me how offended people got. I mean words like "hurt" and "left out" were thrown willy nilly. When I defended our position (it was our money, our vacation how we wanted to spend it was our busniess) I was told I had an attitude and was a total bitch basically. I mean we knew there would be some eyerolling across the land, but the way we were assaulted boggles our minds. We all kind of down about it, and if we had known, we would have kept our traps shut.
I just dont get being so invested in someone elses lives. I like my board, it's good for a laugh or info or what have you, but I can honestly say that the majority of those women are not my FRIENDS, sure a few more than the six I know are my friends, but not to the extent I guess these women thought.
It turned into something all together disturbing. We got a lot of support but the fact that someone even started it, and that others agreed has left me feeling pissed. I didn't know everything I did had to go through them.
Then later today I did a round table discussion on groceries stores. It was about one store in particular and its a store Im ok with, but I dont LOVE it or anything. Women were getting MAD about the bad stuff some of us were saying. Eye rolling, and snapping at each other, as if they actually OWNED the chain we were speaking of. One lady was down right unpleasant about it, saying "Well if you want to waste your money be my guest"
What is it about people that make them so invested in something that they feel offense to what strangers have to say? From my board to that round table discussion, I've been dealing with it all day. I just don'tget it. Six people meet up, and it causes chaos on our board, I don't think Shop N SAve has good meat, so I get the stank eye.
Women are crazy. That's the only thing I can think of. Maybe I am the very same way and can'tsee it. From my point of view though, it makes absolutely no sense to me. Why anyone would even CARE about our trip, or whether or not I prefer Dierbergs just baffles me.
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